Shame is much different than guilt. Shame is a feeling of despair that tells you that you are flawed at your core. It’s unbearable and insurmountable. It’s like looking directly at the sun. It hurts so we hide from it. Guilt is a healthy emotion that reminds you that you did something against your values. Guilt says “you did something wrong”, shame says “you are wrong” “you are unworthy of God’s love”. Shame messages or “faulty core beliefs” are lies that we believe about ourselves. Shame can be overcome with guidance and an understanding of what needs to be done.
Recovery is possible! Often times when we are in the depths of despair life can feel hopeless. The beauty of recovery is that it is available to anyone who is willing to do the work that it takes. As an individual gets humble and accountable their life changes forever and that feeling of hopelessness turns into energy and invigoration for life. The path to recovery is clear if you are willing to take it.
Sometimes the path is as much of a blessing as the final destination. With help from a qualified therapist and support groups one can stay on the recovery path. Getting the right help is essential to overcoming the rocks, turns, and twists that stop people from achieving their life goals. The wrong help can actually make your situation worse. Make sure your therapist has the skills, education, and experience specific to your addiction.