In this episode, we talk about how Ashlynn - the betrayed, and Coby - the recovering addict, successfully breakdown their fight and what they learn from it. They can no longer count how many fights they had in their 17 years of marriage. However, since the recovery began in the fall of 2014, they had their biggest fight.
Here are some of the highlights:
Ashlynn: “This [fight] is a huge step for us. We’re both realizing why we felt unsafe about this certain subject, in very different ways and I think, I felt like we starting to have empathy for each other.”
Coby: “It’s scary for me to approach this conversation… it is still raw and fragile for me.”
Brannon: “But in the end, if you [Coby] can get vulnerable, then you cannot judge Ashlynn for being triggered by the weekend and actually empathize with her feelings around why she’s feeling that way. The only way you do that Coby, you have to put your shame aside for a minute. Try to understand her.”
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I'm Brannon, and I'm an expert in treating sexual addiction, pornography addiction, and helping spouses heal from betrayal. I have over 10 years of experience helping couples, individuals and families heal from the devastating effects of addiction.
I'm an avid presenter and teacher. I know that recovery for an individual and a relationship is absolutely possible. I have both learned and developed tools that work. My greatest fulfillment in my work is helping couples in the depths of pain and despair, and walking them through the healing process.